Although there are true biological depressions, most are in response to life events. Common reasons are loss, and the inability to grieve. Loss comes in many forms, loss of dreams, of loved ones, of hope, of a familiar life style, of our body’s capacities, etc. We are social creatures. We need close human connections to thrive. Loss often threatens or removes these connections.

The most common reason for depression is found in past unresolved grief’s woven into the complexity of an individual life. As Americans, we live in a culture that is focused on doing, not feeling. When loss occurs, often we get busy and ignore our feelings of sadness, helplessness, and emotional pain. However, this avoidance sets us up for the next loss and often our grief may be bigger larger because it triggers our last undigested loss. Feelings that aren’t felt or expressed can become embodied. They may become symptoms, they may be come anger or they may lead to addiction. Anger is a great cover for painful emotions. It makes us feel temporarily strong and more in control, but it also cuts us off from our compassion for our selves and others.Morning Glory Farm

A second reason for depression is long standing anxiety. Anxiety wears you out. It leads to phobias and avoidance. As your life constricts, you quite naturally become depressed. In this case, you must deal with the anxiety in order to remove the cause that is constricting your life.

The miracle about we humans is that we are always ready to recover our footing. It requires taking ourselves seriously enough to seek appropriate help. One will always know if the help is right after a few sessions. You need to feel understood and begin to feel some hope about the future. If you don’t feel these, it is better to seek another helper who is a better match.